Tuesday, August 02, 2005

We Found Our Son!!





August 2, 2005: Day 1 with Andrew our son!



Today we found our son in Dnipropetrovsk, Ukraine! He is a precious 18 month old little boy as of yesterday, August 1, 2005. He is approximately 18 pounds in weight and 68 centimeters long. He was born premature at 7 months gestation, however, is developing more and more, day by day. His name is Andrew or as they call him in the orphanage Andruska.



We traveled by train overnight to visit the orphanage today and didn’t get much sleep due to the movement and noise of the train. It was an interesting train with 4 cots to a room. Robert, Alla and I all stayed in the same room and finally turned the lights off around 1am. The train arrived in Dnipropetrovsk around 7:00am. Since it was too early to meet with the city inspector and then the orphanage inspector we had some breakfast at McDonalds. I was looking forward to a McGriddle breakfast sandwich, however, come to our surprise they didn’t have breakfast food, only cheeseburgers, French fries and Mcnugguts. So we had McNuggets with orange juice for breakfast. Once we met with the inspector of the city and then the inspector of the orphanage we traveled to the orphanage to meet the orphanage director and then meet Andrew. Since Ukraine is switching ministries of who will oversee the orphanages the orphanage director was in an all day meeting with some city officials until 4:00pm. We waited for 4 hours along with 3 other couples waiting to meet with the orphanage director for the first time. Once she got back from her meeting, we were all hoping and praying she would let us see the children for a bit before they closed at 5:00pm. Well, Praise God, she saw all of us waiting couples and brought in the children we were waiting to visit with.



When they brought Andrew into the room to see us he was shy, hesitant and not sure of who these two new people were to him. They let me hold him and he just looked at me and didn’t know what to make of what was going on. I tried to get him to smile but he was very serious. I was bouncing him in my arms as I was standing and started softly singing “You are my sunshine, my only sunshine”, however, I was starting to get choked up with just singing the first few lyrics. As I was holding him, Alla and the orphanage director was quickly giving us Andrew’s medical history. Andrew is perfectly healthy little boy. Since it was the end of the day and the other couples were waiting to meet with the orphanage director we had to say goodbye for today to Andrew. The caretakers took Andrew back to his groupa and changed him into his summer wardrobe for outdoors….his undies. We saw him again before we left outside and got to hold him and get a quick couple of family photos with Mama and Papa Millilo. Robert and I are so excited about our new son Andrew.

Monday, August 01, 2005

Our Second Appointment at the NAC

National Adoption Center Emblem Posted by Picasa




Today we went down to the NAC and we waited for them to call us into their offices. We went in and met with a different much nicer psychologist that showed some loose files of children that just came off of the ministry and now available for foreign adoption. Our translator went through the individual files with us and their medical records. We selected to meet one of them. It is a boy that is 18 months old as of today and has some normal orphanage delays. The picture of him is his newborn picture when he was all bundled up with his eyes closed. He has dark hair (looks like a typical Millilo baby). Robert and I are both excited that we are moving forward and praying that this child is our little boy. When we selected him the psychologist took his file and held onto it to put it with our dossier and to get our paperwork ready to travel to see him tomorrow. When she took the file out of our hand the tears of happiness and relief started to well up in my eyes. Valentina and Alla saw that I started to get emotional and motioned for me to stop. I guess because we still have to visit him and THEN give our final approval to adopt him. The psychologist just smiled as she knew they were happy tears. So I controlled myself and stopped crying. Please keep praying for his health, and for God to continue to give us wisdom, direction and discernment on the decision of this little boy. REMEMBER NOTHING IS GUARANTEED YET!! We waited for our referral letter to give us permission to visit him on Tuesday, Aug 2, 2005.



This highlighted region is where we will be traveling to. Posted by Picasa




Once we got the letter and all of our documents we went to the travel agent to get train tickets for late tonight. Alla said that it takes approximately 5-7 hours by train to travel to Dnipropetrovsk region where the orphanage is located. This region is SE of Kiev. If you look on the map I highlighted the region where we will be visiting the little boy. We then went back to the apartment to collect our belongings, and got drenched from the major downpour of water after getting off of the taxi bus. We should arrive in Dnipropetrovsk around 7am and will then meet with the inspector of the city and of the orphanage. After that we will meet with the orphanage director, orphanage doctor and then meet the little boy. We will keep you all informed as much as we can on the outcome of tomorrow. We know that you all are just as excited for us as we are in becoming parents. We hope and pray that our internet service will be as good there as we have here in Kiev. Until we blog again, keep us in prayer for safe travels. Love to you all!!

Sunday, July 31, 2005

Our Weekend in Kiev

Robert & Karrie Sitting Next to A Famous Russian Writer Posted by Picasa




Saturday, Robert and I enjoyed our time to relax today and take it easy. We knew it was going to be a hot day today we stayed inside for a majority of the day. We exercised to our Tae Bo Billy Blanks Ab Bootcamp dvd and caught up on some emails, caught up on our paperwork and watched some movies. Around 4:30pm Dima came over to take us out on the town. He took us to a wax museum where they had some Russian Olympic figures, Russian actors, poets, Russian Presidents such as Lennon, Breshnif, Stalin and Arnold Swartzineger & Britney Spears. Dima then took us up one of the 7 hills in Kiev to the Russian Parliament building where all of the diplomats and political figures meet. We then climbed another hill to walk through Maritzzio Park that over looks the Dnipro River and Kiev. He then led us through the park where the first Prime Minister built a magnificent home where other countries presidents and diplomats stay while they are in town. Behind the gates of the Prime Minister home and building were approximately 15 tents that were set up close to each other with protest signs. Dima said that these people are still protesting the Orange Revolution that went on last winter. This is just a very small percentage of the people that were camped out protesting for 3 months last year when the elections were going on last fall. We then continued through the park and saw a lot of monuments of Russian composers, politicians and historians. We walked a little further and came to a free outdoor classical arena where people were playing their instruments. The arena was packed with an interested audience. We stayed and listened for a while as we overlooked the city and watched the roller bladers weave in and out of their cones on their toes. This city has some huge parks. If you are planning on coming to Kiev to adopt or visit, you must walk through some of these parks. A little further down in the park was a huge playground and a couple of ponies for the kids to take a ride on. Seems to be a common thing here in the city for people who can afford it. Robert didn’t want to pay for me to ride on the pony so I wasn’t a happy camper. =) I could see that he wanted to ride the monster toy trucks by the way he was watching the little kids drive them around. I said, “No not today…maybe next time”. =) By that time we were tired, our feet hurt and were dripping with sweat. Dima hailed the taxi bus and we went home. It was an exhausting day between exercising in the morning and climbing the hills in Kiev and all the walking we did. By the time we got back to the apartment Robert’s Mom & Dad called and chatted with us for a while. I was too tired to blog last night, so we just relaxed when we got home.



Sunday: In the afternoon we went out on the town ourselves. We took a taxi bus to one of the malls and did a little shopping in the wonderfully air conditioned mall. Of course we took our time to enjoy much of the cool temperatures as possible, have lunch and nosing in and out of the shops. When we were in the center of the mall in one of the shops a funny thing happened. All of a sudden out in the center of the mall this loud up beat music started blasting and disco lights were flashing to get everyone’s attention to come out of the stores and into the center of the mall. When we walked out of the shop to the center of the mall we saw this red carpet go up this ramp and around the corner along with this red velvet rope that bordered the red carpet. Well they started announcing something in Russian over the loud speaker like they were introducing the President of Ukraine or something. Then when we heard female names being announced Robert turned to me and said that he thought that it was going to be a fashion show with models walking down the red carpet. Well wouldn’t you know it that there were these 5 ducks…yes I said DUCKS that were running down the red carpet, flapping their wings like they were waving hi to us and running into the fountain (where the carpet led to). They were so FUNNY!! They were playing around in the water climbing on top of each other, flapping their wings real hard to get everyone wet and then got up out of the fountain and ran down the carpet the opposite direction and waved goodbye with their wings as they squaked Dasfidanya…or goodbye!!! One of the most hilarious things we have seen yet. Robert just shook his head in disbelief. Well that was our exciting day out on the town in Kiev today. We hope you had a good laugh about it as well.



Tomorrow will be our second appointment at the NAC. We are anxious to move forward with our adoption of our child, so please pray and be in agreement with us to have favor in finding our forever child. Once we select our child we will travel to the region where the child is located. Depending on the region and how remote or not it is will depend on if we will be blogging regularly or not. We will do what we can to keep you all informed as much as possible. So if you don’t hear anything from us in the next few days, don’t be alarmed. I will get a message to my mom if necessary to update our blog as soon as possible. As you know there are regions in Ukraine (like we have experienced last week) that their phone lines are not working or up to speed. So we’ll see where and if we are able to keep in contact with everyone. We love you and thank you all in advance for the agreement of our forever child.

Friday, July 29, 2005

Deciding To Adopt One Child Under 4 Years Old

This morning Robert and I felt a prompting in our hearts to speak to Alla about pursuing one child instead of a sibling group, since the sibling groups that we pursued last time were all out of country on sponsorship programs. We didn’t want to waste anymore time to see if the sibling groups are available to visit and proceed with the adoption or not. We’ve been here in Ukraine a week already today and at the NAC for 3 days in a row with no outcome as of yesterday.



So this morning we invited Alla over to the apartment where we are staying to discuss the matter and to let her know we are ready to move forward with the adoption of one healthy child under the age of 4 years old. We stressed to her our concern of pursuing a sibling group again since the 6 sibling groups of kids we looked into were all on sponsorship programs either in Italy, Spain or USA and wouldn’t be back for a few weeks to a month. She understood and saw my emotional level was about to break. We told her that we came here for a reason and that was to adopt a child or two. As of yet we are still in the same standstill as we were when we arrived in Kiev a week ago. Alla reassured us that they will do the best they can for us to proceed forward with our adoption.



Since we submitted our letter of petition to get a second appointment with the NAC to look and select from the files again, we waited to see when our appointment would be. Praise GOD!! We were given an appointment for Monday, Aug. 1st to go through and select again. We are so thankful that we don’t have to wait 5-7 days for a second appointment. HALLELUJAH!! The favor of God is definitely upon us and all of our prayers have been effectual and continue to avail MUCH!!! Hallelujah!!! GOD IS SO GOOD!!



Robert and I are hopeful about our upcoming appointment on Monday and we believe that God will reveal our forever child on Monday, August 1st . A new month for new beginnings.



We feel like this has been a soap opera story and you all have been the viewers….As the World Turns….or …and this has been “The Days of Our Lives”…Just trying to keep a sense of humor throughout this wonderful week at the NAC.



Anyway…that is the saga for today. We are hopeful about our appointment for Monday, and would appreciate all of your prayers for favor to be shown a healthy child under the age of 4 years old and that the child is available to go and visit with either Monday or Tuesday.



We love and miss you all very much. Feel free to email us at rkmillilo@msn.com . We feel out of touch with everything going on at home and would love to hear what everyone else has been up to.



Until tomorrow…same time…same station….same channel. =)

Thursday, July 28, 2005

Staying Strong and Encouraged!

The weather today has been the hottest it’s been around 86 degrees plus humidity and no wind or A/C. Just our body fat turning into liquid and rolling down our arms, legs and buttocks. We heard that it’s only getting hotter over the next few days. Good way to loose weight anyway!



Robert and I had another wonderful day waiting all day to see if we could either travel to the orphanage and take a chance to see the sibling group of 3 children were available, or find out if the NAC or Alla has heard from the orphanage to give us the scoop on the kids. Alla finally received a call from the orphanage director at 5:00pm as we were walking out of the NAC. She said that the boys were at the orphanage, however, the girl was in Italy on a sponsorship program until September. Since they can’t be separated, we decided to get another appointment with the NAC to go through the children’s files again to select once again.



Robert and I are staying peaceful, strong and encouraged throughout this time. We believe that God has the right children picked out for us already and He will reveal them to us real soon. We are keeping the faith and are confident that God is working everything out for good on our and our children’s behalf.



We appreciate all of your love, encouraging and faith filled words, and most of all your prayers.



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Wednesday, July 27, 2005

When you have done all to stand, STAND!

(Robert decides to speak up today) Hello to all friends and family. It seems that we are in the middle of a war and we have one more battle to go through. So for those of you who have been praying for us, do not stop….we’re almost there. Tomorrow will be our third day going to the NAC where we are looking to get permission to go to the orphanage to meet a sibling group of 3 children. Today the phone lines to the orphanage and inspector’s office were not operating therefore we could not get a hold of them to get permission to see the children. All the other sibling groups that they were checking on for us were unavailable for one reason or the other. We refuse to give up on our harvest, therefore we are meeting with the NAC tomorrow to find out if they received information on the children or we will insist on visiting the children without knowing if they are at the orphanage and not at camp.



(Karrie speaking) Alla our translator, has been pulling strings right and left for us. She has been going over and above what we thought in regards to accomplish our goal and visiting the children. They found out through information that something is wrong with the phone lines at the inspectors’ office and at the orphanage. Alla and Valentina phoned the inspector from the region and told him that we were having difficulty contacting the inspector at the orphanage and the orphanage itself to get information on the children. The regional inspector will find out what is going on and will contact the NAC with the information on the kids by tomorrow. Or we will get permission from the NAC to visit them without contacting the orphanage first. Sometimes in the summer the children go to camp outside of the orphanage or they go on a sponsorship program in another country. There were a few other sibling groups that were away in other countries on sponsorship programs to USA and Spain. So that is why the NAC wants to make sure that we find out if they are at the orphanage before we visit them and to see if any of their relatives are still visiting them.



Please stand in agreement with us that we will receive information on the children and that they are available to be adopted and that we can visit them tomorrow.



We are standing fast and keeping the faith that our harvest of our children is already done. We are looking forward in visiting them tomorrow.



HAPPY BIRTHDAY DAD!!! EAT A PIECE OF CAKE FOR EACH OF US. WE LOVE AND MISS YOU. WE HOPE YOUR BIRTHDAY WAS A HAPPY ONE!! HUGGS & KISSES.
ROBERT & KARRIE

Tuesday, July 26, 2005

Our Appointment at the NAC

Hello Everyone! We know you all have been waiting and wondering how we made out at the National Adoption Center today. We arrived at the NAC earlier than our scheduled appointment and had to wait until it was our turn to go in to the office. We went into the Scooby Doo like hallway (long hallway with lots of closed doors..not knowing who will appear out of what door next) and waited some more time until it was our turn.



When we finally were asked to come into the psychologists’ office we met with a young woman that asked to see our invitation letter that they sent to us and our family album. We also gave her a picture of 2 previously adopted children from Ukraine that we know and lives near us. She seem to favor that we are in touch and live near another family that has young adopted children from Ukraine and that they look very happy and well adjusted. She then asked us how many children we were looking for and we said 2. As soon as I said two and held up 2 fingers, she responded 3? I said no two children, preferably under the ages of 7 years old. Alla, our translator, spoke to her in Russian and we were shown some loose files first that were sitting on the window sill. When we went through them we selected a few files of sibling groups of 2 and sibling groups of 3 for the psychologist to call the orphanages to find out if they are definitely available. Even though the childrens’ files are in the books at the NAC, if a relative is still visiting them, then they are not on the availability list, unless the relative is willing to sign off for them to be adopted. We did not have any more time since other couples were waiting to meet with them as well, however, the favor of God was certainly going forth on our behalf. We were actually given a great deal more time that was allotted for looking through the files of children and I had the strength of the Lord today meaning I wasn't emotional and Alla was working hard at persuading the pschologist to give us more time to look. Your prayers are certainly going forth on our behalf. We appreciate them all. Keep them coming our way.



We will meet with the NAC tomorrow around 11:30am again to hear the results and select from those files she called about today. If we select a sibling group of 3 children we would need to get another approval from the INS and an addendum from our home study agency in America to allow us to bring 3 children back into the states. We contacted INS and our home study agency today (Thanks to the help of Mama Sherry-OOH you know Mom how thankful we are for all your help today!) to see if and how long it would take to get an updated approval and what is the process to do so. They said it shouldn’t take but more than a weeks time to get it all updated. So to answer you question, Yes we are possibly thinking of adopting 3….yes I said 3 children. And, No we are not crazy! We’ll be Just ONE BIG HAPPY BLESSED FAMILY!!! From there we will select one of the sibling groups and go to visit them. Until then, please pray and be in agreement with us that these sibling groups are available so we can proceed forward with our adoption.



Robert and I wanted to wish my brother David and our brother in-law Billy a BIG HAPPY BIRTHDAY TODAY!!! We love you both and hope your birthday was a happy one.

Monday, July 25, 2005

Anticipating Tomorrow's Appointment with NAC

Russian Orthodox Cathedral & Monestary Underground Posted by Picasa




Today, Dima took us out again tonight to see some more of Kiev. We visited a Russian Orthodox Cathedral today and toured the Underground Monastery where the monks and Russian Orthodox people lived underground. We went through the underground tunnels that were lit by candlelight. The only thing we saw besides the narrow and short tunnel hallways were out coves of tombs of monks and saints all wrapped up in their royal tapestry garments in these glass coffins. One of the tombs the person’s hand was showing through their tapestry garments and it’s mummified skin was barely covering the bones in the hand. Of course Robert had to point it out to me to skeeve me even more than what I was walking through these dark tunnels looking at tombs. He had a good laugh at seeing and hearing my reaction though.



Mama Karrie & Papa Robert outside of Monestary Underground. Women must wear a scarf on their heads to enter. Posted by Picasa




All of the churches here are absolutely gorgeous with murals all over the inside and outside of saints and scenes of the Jesus walk here on earth. Of course you are not allowed to take pictures inside any of the churches or the monastery. We also got to experience a traditional Ukrainian meal today, as per my request. We had borcht (beet soup with potatoes, beets, onions and sour cream) very tasty, ham with mushrooms, mayonnaise, and onions, ham with cheese, tomato and onions which was very tastey and rice. We all got our bellies full and rolled out of that Ukrainian CafĂ©. Dima then took us for a 2 hour tour boat ride on the Dnipro River. The Dnipro River is the main river that runs from the central north section of Ukraine to the south section and it flows into the Black Sea. It was a lovely day today for touring the city. The weather was about 80 degrees Fahrenheit. We enjoyed it thoroughly, however, my mind kept wondering about the outcome of tomorrow. We were fairly quite on the boat ride (partially because we were tired from walking everywhere the last week, and partially because of our anticipation for what children God has in store for us). Dima thought we weren’t having a good time and wanted to make sure that we were so he kept asking if we were having fun. I tried to explain to him that we were enjoying his tour, however, we were just excited and looking forward to our day with his mom, Alla tomorrow at the NAC.



Praise God! Tomorrow, July 26th is our appointment with the National Adoption Center. We’ve been thinking about it all day today and are wondering what children God has for us. What ages and gender are they, what do they look like and do they even realize that their Mama and Papa are so excited to meet them and to take them home and love them forever. Our darling children, Ohh how we’ve longed to have you join our family and to smother you with hugs and kisses. We love you already and haven’t even met you yet.



We’ve been praying for God to comfort, clothe, feed, protect and nourish you during this time apart from us. We’ve been praying that the Lord is whispering in your ears that He knows the plans He has for you both. Plans to prosper you and give you peace and not harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Ohh and what a future you have in store. Our future together as a family has been our dream for so long. We are so grateful to God for Him directing us to you both and all of the people who have helped us get to where we are today.



Please keep us and our appointment with the NAC in prayer and agreement with us that we have supernatural favor with the authorities that we will be meeting with tomorrow, supernatural wisdom for God to direct our paths (for our thoughts are not His thoughts and our ways are not His ways) and that God shows us which children He has directed and planned for our lives and family.



We will keep you all posted as soon as we find out anything. Our appointment at the NAC is for 11:30am (4:30am EST) so we will hopefully be able to go in and select our children and get a permission letter signed to visit them sometime this week. Until then, we will hopefully get some sleep tonight.

Sunday, July 24, 2005

Touring Kiev with Dima in Afternoon

WWII Victory Monument & view of Kiev from monument. Posted by Picasa




This morning we stayed inside since we had a morning thunder showers with lightning. We called Alla and told her not to send Dima because of the storm, since her son, Dima was going to show us around town again today. It was nice for Robert and I to kick back and relax since the last week we’ve been on the go. We spent some time watching Joel Osteen and Kenneth Copeland Ministries and working out to a Tae Bo workout DVD we brought. Then we relaxed had lunch and organized some of our belongings and paperwork.



The sun finally came out today around 2pm so Robert and I went out for a walk and discovered an outdoor open market (like I imagined....like a cowtown fleamarket). People were selling fruits, vegetables, flowers & arrangements, eggs, meat, wooden carvings, clothing (everyday) and many other items. All of their tables or booths had umbrellas to shade them from the sun and rain. There was a man selling nuts and I noticed he was cracking the shell open to pull the nuts out to collect in a bowl to sell to people. Today I also noticed when we were on the taxi bus, an older woman wearing a lightweight scarf on her head and a long dress get onto the taxi bus. When she got on the bus she sat down near the door without paying the bus driver. The taxi bus lady asked for the money (I think anyway) and the lady go all huffy and started looking through her purse. The bus then stopped and the older lady got off the taxi bus. I thought we were making a regular stop, however, they were just letting her get off because she didn't have the money to pay for the ride. It's really sad to see so many people in need.



After we got back to the apartment, Dima called and ask to see if we wanted to go out to see more of Kiev. So he showed us around to a few parks (lots of parks in Kiev and beautiful I might add). Dima also showed us to WWII monuments and museum where we could check out their Army tanks, missiles, helicopters, and all kinds of WWII vehicles outdoors. We also past by an Orthodox Russian church where someone famous was getting married. There were many people standing outside of the church with photographers and a Videographer and police all around. Dima said that it would probably be on the news tonight.



For dinner Dima took us to a Pizzaria where we had pizza of course. It was very good. Robert and I both thought it was very tasty. I guess Dima wanted to bring a piece of home to us since he suggested a pizzeria. I think tomorrow I will suggest a typical or traditional Ukrainian meal instead. I really want to experience as much of our children’s culture as possible. I am tired now so I’m saying good night for now.

Saturday, July 23, 2005

Our 1st Day Touring Kiev, Ukraine

Robert & Karrie in front of St. Michael's Cathedral, Kiev, Ukraine. Posted by Picasa





Dobrey Den! (Good Day) Everyone! Yes, and a Good Day it was touring Kiev, Ukraine with Alla, our translator and her son, Dima. They picked us up at our apartment around 10:00am and brought a cell phone for us to rent from them. She showed us how to operate it and then Alla asked us some more detailed questions about ourselves, the type of children we were hoping to adopt, occupations, family and home. Since she wasn’t our original assigned translator, she was just trying to get to know us a little better and to understand better what age ranges we were looking to adopt. We then showed her our photo album that we put together of our home, the childrens’ bedrooms, family, friends and surrounding areas we live near, such as Cape May Beach & Lighthouse, pictures of Wissahikon Park in Philadelphia and NYC- The Statue of Liberty. They were both very interested in looking at our pictures and to get to know us a little better. They really seemed to favor the pictures of our families and our nieces, Nicole, Christina, Maria Clare & Julia and our nephew, Billy. By the way, our 3 and a half year old niece Maria Clare and her mom (Robert’s Sister), Maria made us these awesome chocolate chip cookies to take with us on our trip! They are wonderful and a nice treat from home to enjoy in the evenings. Thanks again to both Maria Clare & Maria for your sweet treats from home. They are YUMMY and appreciated!



By the way, HAPPY BIRTHDAY, Nicole!!! We love and miss you much and hope your birthday is as special as you are to us! Have a piece of cake for both Uncle Robert and Aunt Karrie.



We then walked out of our apartment and down the street and saw that we are across the street from a McDonalds. Fancy that. A little piece of home right across the street. Alla guided us through this underground mall that leads out to the other side of the street where we waited for a taxi bus. We took the taxi bus to a park called Shevchenko (not sure of the spelling) park. It was a beautiful park that was surrounded by a university and monuments of different historian Ukrainian figures one being Shevchenko himself. It was a beautiful day for a walk in the park and around the city. The temperature was approximately 86 degrees F. The humidity is low so we are really enjoying the weather.



St. Sofia's Cathedral, Kiev, Ukraine Posted by Picasa





Alla and Dima were sharing with us a lot of history about the buildings we past. We past the National Ukrainian Opera House, Shevchenko University, St. Sophia’s Cathedral, and St. Michael’s Cathedral. We saw at least 12-15 different couples that just got married and were having their pictures taken with their friends outside of St. Michael’s Cathedral. They had their finely decorated cars (Mercedes and Limos) decorated with flowers and streamers. Of course, these people were the upper class citizens of Ukraine. Alla said that they have to have lots of money to pay for all of these fancy limos and Mercedes to be chauffeuring them around. We took some pictures and walked around the building and viewed more brides and grooms that were touching the holy water in this fountain that had a cross on top of it. It was interesting to learn a bit about the Ukrainian traditions when they get married. Near the fountain was a lady playing the violin. It was a beautiful scene. St. Michael’s Cathedral and St. Sofia’s Cathedral and gorgeous old Russian looking churches with the gold covered dome roofs and colorful walls. Their beauty and grand in stature prescence really took my breath away. No wonder why so many couples get their pictures take in front of them. We then walked to Independence Square to walk around for shopping and to watch the parade. Samsung and UMC (another cell phone company) were parading up and down the streets in Independence Square with their bands and people with flags with their logo on them rolling up and down the streets on their rollerblades. There were a lot of street vendors selling goods and food items. The streets of Independence Square are shut down to vehicles on the weekends, for people to enjoy the activity in the square.



After a fun filled day in Kiev, Alla directed us to an underground mall near our apartment where I could purchase a hair dryer and curling iron since the outlet receptacles are different. We then went to our apartment and Alla checked our paperwork/dossier copy that I brought with us for our adoption to see if everything is correct. She gave us her approval and then she left us for the evening. Robert and I thought we’d go across the street and get a taste of home at McDonalds. It was interesting trying to order without Alla doing it for us. But we handled it with no problem. It was funny, when we were at McDonalds eating, we noticed a little girl celebrating her birthday with her friends. She turned 7 years old and they were playing a game where the McDonalds lady told the two teams of girls to run around and get so many signatures of the people in the restaurant. A group of 7 year old girls ran immediately over to our table and were asking us (so I think) to sign their placemat from McDonalds. So I signed it and they thanked us and ran to the next table. Robert and I thought it was cute and are getting more excited about sharing these experiences with our own children. Well, that’s all for now. We are spending the day with Dima (Alla’s 17 year old son) tomorrow in Kiev. Das Fi Danya (Good Night).

Friday, July 22, 2005

WE'RE HERE...AT LAST in KIEV, UKRAINE!!!

PRIVIT (Hello) Everyone! Greetings from Kiev, Ukraine! We arrived in Ukraine today around 2:30pm (Ukrainian time) and met up with our VIP serviceman named Alex. He quickly escorted us to the baggage claim area where he told us that he would help us fill out the immigration customs form and help us take our baggage, get us through customs and direct us to where we would meet up with our translator. He was very serious about getting us to our destination as quickly as possible. He then proceeded to asked us if we were carrying more than $1,000.00 on us, however, his accent was so strong Robert and I were a little confused as to what he was asking. I could tell that Robert didn’t fully understand him either so I looked at him confused and told him that I didn’t understand. Well, that was the wrong thing to say. He obviously got annoyed and raised his voice (like I couldn’t hear him the first time) and even leaned in closer to me like he was yelling in my ear and asked the exact same question over again. We then figured we’d better answer the question (even though I was unsure if we should tell him how much cash we had strapped to our bodies). After answering the question, he helped us fill out our immigrations forms for customs and then we waited for our bags to arrive through baggage claim. We collected our baggage and he escorted us right on through customs (even though there were many more people in front of us). He put us right to the front of the line and they sent us on through. Robert and I are still reminising and laughing at the situation when the Alex didn't get an answer to his question. TOOO FUNNY!



After customs, and collecting our baggage we were in a crowded room where many people and taxi cab drivers were waiting for their families to arrive. While Robert stayed with our bags, I looked around for our translator holding a sign with our name on it. When I saw our name on the sign and looked at the lady and told her I was Karina Millilo she graciously greeted me and told me that she was glad to meet us. When I first saw her and was about to shake her hand, I became overwhelmed with emotion, because this lady, our translator, will be our life line to the adoption process and our go between to complete the adoption of our children while in Ukraine. I felt like hugging her, but I kept my composure and shook her hand and told her it was a pleasure it was to meet her. We then joined up with Robert and Alla, our translator, introduced us to our driver, Sasha. She said, he was her Big Boss and then laughed. Alla is not the original translator that we were supposed to meet up with, however, Alla is very nice and experienced at what she does. She has been working with Valentina’s team for 5 years and I have heard many good reports from other families on our Adoption Forum.



Alla and Sasha then escorted us to their car and took us down a long highway into the city part of Kiev doing approximately 170 kilometers/hour. I’m not sure what that translates out to in miles/hour, however, I know we were up there in speed. I just looked out of the side window at the scenery instead of looking forward. Sasha is a very good driver, I must say. He can even stop on a dime when needed, as we experienced when Valentina (our facilitator)was also with us in the car. We met up with her after stopping at a local market to get some food to heat up at the apartment for tonight’s dinner. When Sasha, stopped quickly because this large truck in front of us stopped, Valentina threw up her arms and told him EASY!!! EASY!!!....Alla interpreted Valentina’s reaction and we all had a good laugh.



We all then went back to our apartment, where we will be staying for the next couple of days, until we get our referral and permission letter to visit our kids that we select so we can visit them. Our apartment reminds us of a 1950’s style 4 room apartment. Kind of like apartment #2 at the Ventnor house. We have a living room, kitchen with a small table to eat on, bedroom and bathroom. The kitchen has a small refrigerator, gas stove that you have to light with a match, and all cooking utensils and pots, pans and plates. Our bedroom is a hide-away sofa bed with a television, desk and cabinets. Our bathroom consists of 2 rooms. One room has just the toilet in it and the other room consists of a small sink that is right next to the tub with a shower. An interesting thing we discovered was the faucet for the sink is the same one used for the tub. You just move the faucet part over to hang over the sink to wash your hands and then move it back for when you want to use it with the tub.



We then met with Valentina and Alla in the living room of the apartment and they answered all of our questions and asked us some questions regarding what we should expect, how many children we were looking to adopt, what was included with their fee etc. Both Valentina and Alla are very professional and experienced people with dealing with the NAC, the adoption community and judicial authorities. We then gave them the balance of their fee owed to them and they gave us their home phone numbers and cell phone numbers as well as what our phone number is in our apartment. If anyone would like to call us, feel free to do so….just remember when calling that we are 7 hours time ahead of you. Here is our apartment phone number for the next couple of days in Kiev 38044-248-20-03.



We had our first dinner in our apartment today, which consisted of chicken breast that was pre-cooked, potato pancakes stuffed with mushrooms and onions and a seafood salad that had corn, imitation crabmeat celery, and peppers along with some soft yummy bread. Robert and I shared with each other that we can’t believe we are actually here. The time has come for our children to join our family! Praise God!

Thursday, July 21, 2005

Windsor Castle, Stone Henge & The Baths

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Robert and I had a splendid day in the outskirts of London today. We took a tour bus to the Windsor Castle and saw the changing of the guards and tour where Queen Elizabeth visits on the weekends. We then went to Stone Henge which is a phenomenon where these gigantic stones are placed in a circle out in a huge field like area. Some say that people over 5,000 years ago built it to worship the sun and the moon. Anyway, we then went on to a old mill which was created into a cafe where we enjoyed lunch. After that we went to a town call Baths which is a very european looking city. Almost reminds us of what a village in Italy would look like. We visited the Roman Baths which is a place where the Romans built this building around these hot springs of water (116 degrres F) The springs there create over one million liters of hot springs a day. The Romans used the Baths as like a sauna, place to relax and cleansing experience. It was also a social hangout back then for the Romans, kind of like a country club.




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That was our day for today. We heard on the bus ride back to London that there were a couple incidents that happened here in town today. We are fine and pushing forward with our adoption journey in Ukraine tomorrow. We fly out of London tomorrow morning and arrive in Ukraine around 3:00pm (8:00am EST). Please keep us in prayer for safe travels and for God to guide us and direct us to select our children during our appointment on Tuesday, July 26th with the NAC. I am sure He will, He has cleared the path so far for us and has come through for us in every other aspect. We'll be in touch from Ukraine as soon as we get settled, hopefully sometime tomorrow. We Love you all. Robert & Karrie

Wednesday, July 20, 2005


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Kensington Palace & Tower of London

This morning we had coffee and a Hardy English Breakfast in our hotel, which consisted of 2 sunny side up eggs, Canadian Bacon, 1 link of sausage, half of a baked tomato, 2 tablespoon sized portions of plain baked beans, 1 teaspoon sized portion of sautĂ©ed mushrooms, orange juice , toast and coffee or tea. The coffee here is like mud, however, Robert doesn’t seem to mind. Me on the other hand, I prefer a spot of tea instead. It must be the English in me. We’ve noticed how pleasant, friendly and cordial the English natives are in our travels. Always willing to help. We’ve also noticed that the people here don’t curse so freely like many Americans you’d find especially in a big city. We haven’t heard any cursing in public and we’ve been in the presence of many different types and classes of people.



After breakfast we booked the tour to go to Windsor Castle, Stonehedge and The Baths for tomorrow since I couldn’t get through the phone lines last night. So today we were contemplating going for a train ride to Paris, France. It really was too late in the morning for that thought since we found out it takes almost 3 hours by train one-way to go to Paris. So we went to Kensington Palace, where Princess Diana lived at one time and The Kings and Queens lived. Yes, Debbie (my cousin) we saw the wedding dress of Queen Victoria. We weren’t allowed to take pictures inside the palace since the light destroys the material of the dresses. We also saw some dresses of the late Princess Diana and toured the rest of the palace that had different galleries, drawing rooms, bedrooms ballrooms and overlooked the Kensington Gardens, which we walked through to get to the palace. We had the audio self walking tour, so by the time we were done, it was lunch time. After lunch we wanted to stop at the post office to mail home the few memorabilia items we purchased so we don’t have to lug around the extra weight in Ukraine.



We then made our way to do a tour of the Tower of London and to see the famous Tower Bridge. We jumped on the underground system since it was way across town and our feet and legs were still sore from yesterday’s walk-a-thon and this mornings walking tour. The Tower of London was a place where they held prisoners at times (some of them royal prisoners) and either tortured them or executed them in a tower call The Bloody Tower or outside in the courtyards. There was also a building in the Tower of London which housed the royal jewels, crowns, swords, and showed a video of when Queen Elizabeth II was inaugurated as queen. One of the royal swords that had a 500 karat diamond in it with all other kinds of jewels. It was an interesting day finding out more history on the royal family and touring the Tower of London, however, we're ready for bed now so that’s it for today. Tot Ta for now!

Tuesday, July 19, 2005


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The Amazing Race in London

It was a beautiful day today in London. The temperature high of the day was around 65 degrees and a bit windy at times. Since we arrived late last night we didn’t have a chance to book a tour for today in advance. At breakfast this morning in our hotel, The Adare Hotel, we were telling one of the other hotel guests that we weren’t sure as to what we were going to do today. Since he knows the area, he suggested, since the hotel is so close to many tourist attractions and since it was a beautiful day, to take a walk down Hyde Park along the lake and then we’ll come across Harrod’s Department store, Buckingham Palace and Westminster Abby. So that is just what we did and loved every minute of it. Except we didn’t stop walking around after visiting Westminster Abby. We kept walking down past Big Ben, saw and rode the Eye of London (which is a huge Ferris wheel that is right on The Thames River and overlooks the whole city of London. What a great opportunity for me to take pictures today. And I took close to 200 pictures. I’m in the process of setting up an account with Ofoto.com to link to this site. When I do, I’ll post our pictures. We also visited St. Paul’s Cathedral, saw the changing of the guard at Buckingham Palace, which was interesting and headed to China town for some dinner.



After that we were too pooped to do much else since most of the day we traveled by foot except toward the end of the day we took the underground lines. It’s amazing how easy it is to use London’s Underground system compared to NYC’s Metro Subway system. We were amazed at how much we saw today on foot. I told Robert that I felt like we were on the Amazing Race today since we did and saw so much in one day. The most memorable part of today was when Robert kept calling me Mummy throughout the day. Of course he was pronouncing it like the English people here. We noticed many differences in the way these English people express themselves and communicate. Here are some of the terms or phrases that we heard today: Mind your head (Watch your head), or Mind your step (watch your step), Lift (Elevator), Lile (little), Mum (Mom), Cheerio (Goodbye). It was an absolute stunningly lovely day.



Everything we’ve purchased here in London is very expensive. To give you an example, we paid 12 pounds or about $24.00 for 2 sandwiches, 1 bottled water, 1 juice and one slice of carrot cake for lunch today. After we arrived back at our hotel this evening, we walked down the street to get some ice cream. For 2 bowls of homemade ice cream, which was very good, with a little bit of whipped cream and 2 bottles of water, we paid 9 pounds or $18.00. Thank goodness we’ll only be here for a few days.



Tomorrow we are going to book a tour possibly to visit the Windsor Castle, Stone Hedge and The Baths. Signing off for now. We’re exhausted. We walked all over London today and our feet, legs and back are feeling it right now. Robert and I were talking about how much we walked today and we both agreed that this is like training week before we go to Ukraine for our children. From what we hear, you walk quite a lot when you are in Ukraine. So we’ll be ready to roll once Friday comes…this is just a warm up session. We hope all is well with everyone at home. Feel free to email us if you’d like at rkmillilo@msn.com. We’d love to hear what and how you all are doing. Cheerio for now.

Monday, July 18, 2005

We Made it to London! Yippie!

We made it to London, safe and sound. It was a long day traveling and now approximately 1:00am London time. I woke up this morning at 3:30am anxiously awaiting the beginning of our adoption journey. I was wide awake and Robert was still asleep so I just laid awake and started praying and thanking God for His goodness. Robert woke up about 4:00am even though our alarm was set for 4:30am. Once we got dressed and on our way to the hotel we noticed how most people that were waiting for the shuttle had just one or two little bags and here we were with these two large stuffed to the gills duffle bags that weighs a ton and two backpacks. When the shuttle arrived to take all of us to the airport, of course since everyone else had little bags, they were able to hop right on to the shuttle. Robert and I just looked at each other wondering if we were going to fit on the shuttle with our luggage after everyone else got on board. Well, we were the last to board and it was barely standing room only. When we checked our luggage we barely made it under the weight requrements. Praise God, we didn't have to pay any extra fees. Our one bag weighed 69.3lbs and the other weighed 70.2lbs. We just made the 70lb/per bag limit. WHEW! Airport security was a breeze. The only thing that they looked at more in depth of ours was our backpack with our laptop and electronics. They used this ionized scanner to check it out and of course released us to move on ahead. We then grabbed a bite to eat and boarded our plane around 8:15am. As soon as we boarded the airplane my stomach turned to knots. I wasn’t feeling nervous or anxious, I think it was the strong coffee and green tart apple I ate. Our plane departed from Newark about 40 minutes late due to there were 20 other planes ahead of us waiting on the runway for take off. We sat next to this lady, Ruth who was from Australia and was meeting a friend in London to go backpacking across Eastern Europe until September. Sounds good to me. I guess that is kind of like what we’ll be doing once we get to Ukraine, except we will be adopting our Ukrainian Angels in the process. YIPPIE!
As we were descending we saw Big Ben and the London Eye. Well the flight went well and were glad to be back on the ground again. Robert and I were both surprised how easy it was going through customs in Heathrow London Airport. They asked us a couple of questions and we told them we were spending a few days here on Holiday…as they call a Vacation and that was it. While we were waiting for our shuttle to take us to our hotel, we noticed these police with bullet proof vests, a couple of hand guns on their belts and they were holding machine guns as they were patrolling the airport like they were looking for someone. OK…I was ready to get out of their after that scene. We are not in America anymore. It looked as if they were looking for someone in particular and were ready to start shooting. Time for us to make like a tree and LEAVE. Thank goodness our shuttle arrived to take us shortly after that scene. We are now settled in our hotel and just enjoyed what London England is known for which is their fish and chips and very good I might add. We’re not quite sure what we will visit first, but we’ll keep you updated.

Sunday, July 17, 2005

We're on our way!

Well, today is the day that we leave start our Adoption Journey.

We are currently in the Newark area at the Holiday Inn settling in before our flight tomorrow morning. I just figured out how to get on-line from outside our home.


Our immediate families visited us yesterday while we were actively packing and getting the house prepared to leave it for a month. My mom will be staying at our house so that is a big relief. Saying goodbye to them for a month was heartbreaking. Especially our mothers. We all got teary eyed and embraced each other like we would never see each other again. At least I was...Robert was the stronger of the two of us. I will miss hearing my mom's voice as much as I usually talk to her. She is a special lady in my life and we are the best of friends.

This morning Robert and I woke up when the alarm went off and looked at each other in bed and smiled, because we knew we were going to start our journey to adopt our children. How excited we are.

Our pastors at church called us up to the pulpit for them and the congregation to pray over us for safe, smooth and peaceful travels. Many friends at church gave us their blessings as well. Thank you all for keeping us and our children in your prayers for safe travels, health, wisdom, direction and a peaceful joyful journey in adopting our children.

We'll be in touch.

Friday, July 15, 2005


Robert & Karrie in Wissahikon Park, Philadelphia April 2000

Thursday, July 14, 2005

Thank You All For Your Love and Prayers!

Robert and I are so thankful for all of our family and friends' joy and excitement for us and our new family to be. Our family and friends are just as excited as we are and it warms our hearts to receive all of your love, encouragement, support, prayers and generous gifts you all have blessed our family with. The love and supernatural favor of God has been poured out upon us through all of you and we thank you for all of it.



Our family has been so wonderful throughout this whole process and have helped in so many ways. My mom, Mama Sherry, has given us so much of her heartfelt excitement, encouragement, gifts to help with our adoption, has helped me with registering at Babies R Us and Target, help with taking care of our home, bills and plants while we are away in Ukraine and has made some outfits to give to the orphans in Ukraine. Your love and encouragement has brought so much joy to our lives. For those of you that don't know, our children will be the first grandchildren for my mom so she is bubbling over with excitment and joy as we are in becoming first time parents. My brother, David helped me with some helpful hints on updating this website and had his friend, Karl, who is a Ukrainian native, now American Citizen, loan us some Ukrainain published books and magazines on Ukraine and the countries history to prepare us for our travels and to give us some insight on the lifestyle, people and surroundings. What a blessing that was to read more on the history of Ukraine and to get some preliminary scenes of Ukraine before we travel.



Robert's parents, have also been a blessing to us with all of their love, support encouragement and prayers. Robert's mom, Mama Maria, back when we were going through fertility treatments would give me my daily shot in the derrière whenever Robert was at work and couldn't do it. Her encouragement and prayers have touched our hearts throughout these past several years planning for our family. I also remember when God first laid on our hearts to adopt our children, Robert's parents were one of the first people we discussed it with. Our conversation with both of them regarding the subject of adoption was a heartfelt and memorable one that helped encourage us to move forward with the adoption. Maria McMahon, Robert's sister, has graciously helped me with registering as well, since I didn't have a clue as where to start. How would I know what brands and products are reccomended and good to use if I never used them before. Robert's Grandma, who is near and dear to my heart, as well as Robert's heart, has given us her love, excitement and has kept us in her prayers for a safe and speedy adoption journey. She is anxiously awaiting the arrival of our new bundles of joy like the rest of us and I am so looking forward in our children meeting and getting to know their Great Grandma or "babushka" which is the Ukrainian word for grandma. =)



Besides getting ready for our adoption journey, we've been blessed with a family barbeque over at our cousin's Debbie & Don Bingeman's home with many other family members including my Mom (Mama Sherry) and sister, Marli, Aunt Marie and Uncle Kenny, our cousins Wendy & Bruce, Jeff & Tammy, Brian & Harmony and of course all of their children there to celebrate our upcoming adoption. We were also blessed with a celebration send off from the Shabach Singles at Victory Christian Fellowship Church, was treated to a homemade brunch and fellowship from our dear friend Jerri Swann in her home. I also thank God for our friend, Kathy Jakubowski who has been a dear friend in both Robert and I's life and is always sowing into our lives, marriage and now into our family in one way or another. We also met with our pastors from our church, Pastors Gary & Faye Whetstone from Victory Christian Fellowship where they gave us some wisdom and insight on traveling and living in Ukraine (since they've been there on missions trips in the past), prayed with us and loaned us a copy of the bible school, "The School of Biblical Studies" www.gwwm.com (since we'll have a lot of free time on our hands while in Ukraine). If any of you are looking for power impacted deep revelational knowledge on the Word of God click on the website above and look for The School of Biblical Studies. It's a great way to get a deeper understanding of His Word and will benefit your life and others around you in more ways than you can imagine. We also visited with Robert's Grandma and his Aunt Marie and Uncle Russ and was blessed with their love and encouragement.



Today, the company that I work for, Catelli Brothers Veal and Lamb company www.catellibrothers.com gave me a baby shower and farewell luncheon celebration. What a tremendous blessing all of my family at Catelli Brothers have been to me in the past 3 years since I've worked there. It is such a family atmosphere in our office and I thank God for each one of them. Many of them have touched my life and heart in so many ways. For example, I could always count on my boss and owner of the company, Tony Catelli, to make me smile with telling a joke or demonstrating a practical joke towards someone else of course. He has given me the freedom to do whatever I needed to do to plan for our children either for the adoption or when we were going through fertility treatments with encouragement and compassion, which has touched my heart with overwhelming gratitude. His support has meant a lot to me for there are not many employers out there that are willing to allow their employees to come and go for doctors' appointments or adoption appointments to plan for a family like he did for us. He has also blessed us with the farewell/baby shower party today and I thank him, Gorge & Jim Catelli for their ever so generous gift. All of the rest of my family at Catelli Brothers also shocked me and Robert with their love and generous gifts of love, the photo album with pictures of President Andrew Jackson throughout and Dumbo"The Flying Elephant" and his care package of goodies. What ingenius ideas they are filled with. My family at Catelli Brothers holds a special place in my heart and I must say if Chris has misplaced something while we're in Ukriane tell him he can't blame it on me anymore. =) VIRY GOOD! You know I'm only teasing you Chris. You know I love ya and will miss you yelling across the office for me saying....UUUUHHHHH ...pause.......pause......KARRIE!!! You know Chris you keep everyone on their toes when you hold that long pause after you say UUUUUHHHH, not knowing who's name you are going to call after it....everyone is just looking at each other like...ok who's name will he be yelling for now. =) Carol, I thank you for lending your ear many times and friendship and love you've given me. Your sweetness and love for everyone at Catelli Brothers is truely golden. Joan, Lorri, Monica, Carolynne,Therese, Sharon, Nancy, Cheryl, Maria, Vanessa, Beverly, Diane, and Donna, all of your friendship is truely valued as well as your goofy sense of humors. Anita Coleman I thank you for your powerful effectual ferverent impactful prayers for us and for your friendship and encouragement. Boris Ayzenberg, I appreiciate your friendship and the time you've help me prepare for our trip to Ukraine and your help with learning a bit of Russian & Ukrainian. Don't be surprised if you get an emergency call from me to translate what our children are saying. You're my inside Ukrainian connection. =) I also thank everyone else at Catelli Brothers as well. You all are a blessing in my life and I am so looking forward in introducing you all to our children real soon.



By the way, if any of you enjoy eating Veal Marsala, Veal Piccata or Veal Provencale, you HAVE to try Catelli Brothers latest and greatest Italian Bistro Product Line. If you need a quick and outstanding meal that is reasonably priced go to your nearest ACME, Pathmark or A&P and purchase the Catelli Italian Bistro Veal Marsala, Veal Piccata and/or Veal Provencale. It takes literally only 5 minutes to make and comes with the veal and the sauce. UUUMMM it's YUMMY!! www.catellibrothers.com/retail/news.asp?intCategoryID=75&intArticleID=431



Now you can understand why we are so thankful to God and sentimental for giving us such a wonderful and generous group of family and friends in our lives. We are so blessed to have such a wonderful family helping us, loving us, encouraging us, praying for us and our children, and that are filled with such excitement in the new soon to be additions to our family. Robert and I thank you all again for everything that you've done and the outpouring of God's love, favor and wisdom that you have shared with us. We pray that your seeds sown will be multiplied back to you 100 fold. May God continue to pour out His love and blessings upon your lives as well.

Friday, July 08, 2005

Updated Documents Have Been Approved

We just got word from our translator that our documents that we had to have updated were translated into Russian, submitted to the NAC, approved and filed with the rest of our documents. Whoo...Whoo!!! What a load off of our minds. We will bring extra originals of all our documents for precautionary reasons, but I am confident that all of our documents are all together and ready for our arrival. =)



Our Facilitator, Julia also told us who our in-country translator will be. Her name is Ira and she is very experienced in working with adoptive families in helping them to complete their adoptions. We also have an in-country lawyer, who's name is Valentina who will be our in-country coordinator in the Kiev, Ukraine region. I hear from other adoptive families that both Valentina and Ira go above and beyond the call of duty for the families that they work for and get the job done as quickly as they can.



We were told that Ira, our translator, will be waiting for us in the airport with a sign with our names on it. She will then take us to our driver and from their we will go to our hotel in Kiev, Ukraine. Ira will be the one whom will be with us for the most part of our adoption journey, since she will be translating for us throughout the process.



Since we will arrive in Ukraine a few days before our appointment we will have time to tour Kiev and record some memories for our children. Kiev is a major metropolitan city and has many old architectual design buildings, churches, open markets (like a Cowtown..or as my mother-in-law calls it "Out-of-town Shop"). So there will be a lot to see in Kiev before we meet with the NAC on Tuesday, July 26th.



OOOHHH it's getting so exciting! It's funny, because I'm usually the one purchasing little toys and educational items for when our children arrive home and yesterday Robert showed me what he purchased(the 1st toy he purchased himself) which is a nerf football. Yes, Robert is getting excited to have a son or two of our own. Since we don't know the age of our children yet, he has been telling me and our families not to purchase anything for the children until we get back from Ukraine. I was so tickled to see that he purchased the nerf football to take with us to Ukraine. My honey's excitement is bubbling over like it is with all of us.



Boy how the time has flown these past couple of months. We are so looking forward to meeting and getting to know our forever children. God is so AWESOME! He is working everything out for good exceedingly, abundantly above all that we can ask or think.

Thursday, June 30, 2005

18 Days Before We Leave

The time is coming near. Only 18 days before we leave for London and then 26 days until our appointment with the NAC in Ukraine. We are getting more and more excited about becoming parents.




Robert and I have been extremely busy getting everything together for our trip and with the house for when we return. The past few weeks we have finished renovating our bathroom, landscaped our front yard, rugged the stairwell going up the the 4th bedroom in our house, painted the stairwell, renovated & painted 2 closets, hung some closet doors, assembled 3 radiator covers, booked our hotel at Newark Airport for the night before we leave, and picked up the rest of our travel supplies at Walmart and finished setting up the children's rooms. We still have clean up, organizing and child proofing the house to do. We're almost done with everything, Thank God!



It's so hard to describe the excitement that we have in becoming parents. I am so amazed at how much I love our children already and I don't even know what they look like. God has already conceived them in our hearts and knows which children He has for us. I believe that He will direct our paths and lead us to the children He has intended for us when we have our appointment in Ukraine. This whole process has certainly been a walk of faith for sure. In the book of Hebrews 11:1 in the bible it says "Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen." So even though we haven't seen our children yet we know and believe that we are already parents of two healthy children. =)

Sunday, June 19, 2005

There Is No Substitute To A Father's Love

Happy Father’s Day to all you Dad’s out there.



I’d like to say that there is no substitute for a father’s love. I’ve noticed over the years when planning for the arrival of friends and family’s babies that the expectant mother gets all of the attention and the father gets overlooked. If it wasn’t for the father, the child wouldn’t be growing in the mother’s belly. Our fathers are the ones we go to for wisdom, guidance, encouragement and protection. We as children, whole heartedly believe our fathers can do anything and will always come through for us in any circumstance in our lives because they always do. A father’s presence in a home is greatly respected by his children (that’s why my mom always said, “Just wait until your father get’s home”), and when a he’s not there he is greatly missed.



It’s been 26 years this month since my dad has been gone to be with our heavenly Father and let me just say he is greatly missed by all of us. There is simply no substitute of his love and presence he has brought to our family and has left in our hearts. My dad was a person of great love and affection to all of us and expressed his love for us by joking around, wrestling with us, teasing us, teaching us, encouraging us, being patient, supporting our family and disciplining us when needed. Many times my dad would come home from work and would ask me to rub his horrendously stinky feet (believe me that is an understatement). We would go back and forth and finally I’d give in and hold my breath the entire time just to make his feet feel better. Oh how I wish to be able to smell his feet again. =) Many people that knew my father say that I am a lot like him, however, let me just say…My feet don’t stink like his use to. Thank God for that.



Over the past 6 ½ years I have been blessed with another father and that is my father-in-law. He is a blessing in our lives and is loved dearly by Robert and I. A man of great wisdom and love for his family and has loved me as his own daughter since the day I met him. Since I take everything to heart, I am very touched by his love and acceptance into the Millilo family and am glad that I have him as my second dad. We love you dad very much and there is simply no substitute of your love and presence in our lives. Happy Father’s Day!

Sunday, June 12, 2005

Documents on the way to Ukraine & House updates

Yippie! Our updated documents are finished being apositiled (certified by the state) and are now on their way to Ukraine to be translated and submitted with the rest of our approved documents. I pray and believe that our updated documents will be approved by the National Adoption Center and submitted with the rest of our approved documents the first time because we have supernatural favor in Jesus name.



Now that our documents are out of my hands and being approved by the NAC in Ukraine, Robert and I can concentrate more on finishing all of the projects in our house we started. Since we finished painting and rugging our 4th bedroom we moved the guest bedroom furniture upstairs and set up the bedroom. I since replaced the rest of the ceiling tiles and Robert and I replaced the closet doors to finish the bedroom. WOW...what a difference time and effort can make to a room that was previously dark paneling with bare plywood floors.



We also painted the baby's room closet and touched up some of the trim work. Robert put one of the crib/toddler bed's together. It looks so nice! Last year we bought 2 matching 2 years old crib/toddler beds at a yard sale with bedding for both and Winnie the Pooh theme rug, mobiles, wall hangings, light switch covers, curtains, pictures and a nightlight all for about $225.00. When the former owners of the cribs found out that we were adopting 2 children, the lady dug out more of the pieces to her Winnie the Pooh theme out of her garage and kept adding to the pile of accessories all for the same price they were going to charge us for just the 2 cribs. When Robert and I got in our van to go home that day with our blessings from above we just looked at each other in amazement because God had fullfilled our prayer and goal in mind for the day Exceedingly and Abundantly more than what we could have asked for or thought of ourselves....especially because the cribs are good quality cribs made by Baby Italia. I'm getting so excited to see at least one of the children's rooms come together. Our next project will be our other child's room. Even though we did get bedding for both cribs in Winnie the Pooh theme, depending on the age and gender of our older child would depend on if they would need a toddler bed and what to decorate and what theme to go with. So we will keep that room simple for now and just set up the toddler bed and finish the basics of the room until we get back from Ukraine with our children. Well, it's getting late so I'm signing off for now.

Tuesday, May 31, 2005

Cousins Anxiously Await For Their New Cousins

Tonight, Karen (my sister-in-law) asked me to babysit our neices, Nicole(11) and Christina(7) and our nephew, Billy(9). So I spent the evening with them, chauffering the girls back and forth to their dance classes and then out to McDonalds for some ice cream. It was a fun evening with them as always and I'm finding out how inquisitive they are in regards to their soon to be cousins. They want to know as much about them as possible. Billy is hoping for a boy cousin so he would have another boy in the family to play with. Nicole, I think in someways she would like to have a female cousin her own age to pal around with although I know she would be quite happy with another baby in the family. Christina, I think wants to have a girl cousin to play with.



As we were driving in the car to dance class, they were helping me think of names to name our children. Boy did we all have fun with that one. That kept them busy for a while. I told them that we'll have to select 2 boys names (incase we adopt 2 boys) and 2 girls names (incase we adopt 2 girls). Some of the names they suggested that I liked were Robert Jr., Joshua, Dean, Austin, Daniel, Luke, Alex, Aaron. Some of the girl names that they suggested that I liked were Macy, Emily, Olivia, Emma, Cassandra, Melody, Britney, and Lily. Well they named a lot more, however, there are too many to list.



I explained to them that even though their new cousins might be talking...that they won't be able to understand them at first because they'll be speaking either Russian or Ukrainian. I explained to be patient with them because it will be just as frustrating for you to understand them as it will be for them to understand you in the beginning. I gave them an example and by having a conversation with Nicole by me replying to her question in a language she couldn't understand. She looked at me like I had lost my mind and was frustrated that I didn't respond to her question in English. Then she asked me to answer her again and again I replied in another language that she didn't understand. The whole time Nicole and I were conversing, Billy and Christina were intently listening to our conversation with a smerk on their faces in the back seat of the car. I finally told them in English of course, that is what could happen upon their arrival home until they learn the language. I told the kids that they are going to be just as frustrated as you to understand you as you will be with trying to understand them. So if they don't understand you, help them learn English by being patient with them and teaching them slowly.



All in all, it was a fun night and I'm realizing more and more how grown up Nicole, Billy and Christina have become. I enjoyed their company tonight very much and am happy to see how interested and anxious they are in regards to their soon to be new cousins.

Everything is coming together

I am so excited! We've gotten so much accomplished in the last week. All of our documents have been completed that we needed to get updated. HORRAY!! We received our statewide criminal clearance letters, agency license and doctors forms from our physical. I broke down in tears of joy when I was on the phone with the doctors office and I heard the good news that our doctors forms were completed. OH, how relieved and thankful to God we are for our paperwork being completed. Thank you for all of your prayers. We now have to get the paperwork notarized and apositilled by the state in Trenton, NJ and then sent to Ukraine to get our paperwork translated and then submitted with the rest of our paperwork before we have our appointment on July 26th. Now you can understand why we were getting concerned about getting our paperwork being completed.



We also finished painting our 4th bedroom and laid the carpeting. Now we can concentrate on fixing up our children's rooms.The plumber and Robert finished renovating our shower and surround in our bathroom. Robert and I also attended a CPR & Choking class for infants and children. This class was better than any other CPR class that I've had in the past. It provided a lot of hands on practice for an extended period of time, just like if you were in a real situation. I would recommend it to anyone. It was through Virtua Healthcare in Voorhees, NJ. They have all sorts of classes that you can take. Here is their website if you are interested in checking into it more https://physicianlocator.virtua.org/sfnasp/servicesearch.asp

Friday, May 27, 2005

Robert's Locks of Love


About a year and a half ago Robert started growing his hair to donate to Locks of Love Foundation www.locksoflove.org where they receive donated hair to make into wigs for children that have cancer. Yes, today was the big day to get his hair cut....WHOOO, WHOOO!! Robert donated 10 inches of his spiral brown curls and is happy to have his clean cut look back. And so am I!!! Now I have my BIG HUNK of a MAN back!! YIPPIE!!=)



This was the first time that Robert has grown his hair past a few inches, that so many of his family members gave him such a hard time about it. Everytime he saw them they told him who he looked like. One day they called him a Mountain Man, another day it was, a Rebel, another day it was Antonio Banderez, another was Sean Claude Vandam and the list goes on. Even though I wasn't fond of the idea of Robert growing his hair long in the beginning, I supported his efforts. I kept imagining the look of surprise and gratefulness on the child's face who receives their first wig and what a difference that wig will make in that child's self esteem and confidence. I know I would be excited if that were me receiving my first wig.



It's funny how people judge you by the way you look. We moved into a different home last year and around that time Robert's hair had already grown about 5-6 inches. Well our new neighbors seemed to keep their distance from Robert. In a conversation that I had with both our neighbor and her daughter she told me that she donated her hair that she recently got cut off to Locks of Love. Of course I immediately responded and said that is what Robert is doing. Both her and her daughter looked at each other with a sigh of relief and said in a surprised tone "OOOOOOOHHH"!!...now it all made sense to them......Their "new" neighbor was NOT a crazed maniac after all.



Long or short hair, my babez heart is still the same one I fell in love with...a generous giving man who has a heart for others...even if he has never met the person.

Wednesday, May 18, 2005

Preparing for our Babies

Robert and I have been actively preparing for our trip to Ukraine and getting the house ready for our new additions to our family. We are in the process of renovating our walk-up attic into a 4th bedroom, which will be our guest bedroom. I gave the attic two coats of primer paint and one coat of a sage green.



I still have to finish the other half of the attic with the green and then we can rug it this weekend and set it up as a bedroom. Once we do that we can move some of the bedroom furniture in the two kids rooms into the guest room where it belongs and then finish off our kids bedrooms. Robert put up some trim molding in the attic after I painted it, which really gave the walls a finished look. Our bathroom is also under renovations right now until the plumber shows up next week to finish the job. I have also been busy working on our little boys' afghan. I am about half way done. Our little girls' afghan I finished last year (which was my first afghan I ever made...thanks to Mama Sherry teaching me). Robert got a book on London that had some maps and hotel reviews in it, which was nice to see how close the underground transportation is to the hotels we are looking into. We will be reserving our hotel probably sometime tomorrow...so that will be done. I've also been reading the book "Supernanny" that my mom gave us for our anniversary. Another thing we've been doing to prepare for our trip is to record on our DVD player movies and sitcoms off of the television so we will have some English TV shows to watch when we have some free time....which there is a lot of from what we hear when we are not visiting the children. I'm sure we won't be just watching tv during our free time, that is why we're bringing some travel games, cards, books, crotcheting & cross stitch projects to do as well as journaling to keep you all informed as well as to create a memory book for our children. We did receive one of our documents that we had to update which was our adoption agency license. We are now waiting on our statewide criminal clearance letters (which we should receive either this week or next week) and our doctors forms from our physicals we had in March (which should be done real soon as well)...I HOPE. We still have to send all of our updated documents up to Trenton, NJ to get them apositilled and then sent to Ukraine to be translated and submitted with the rest of our documents BEFORE we have our appointment at the NAC. Please pray and believe with us that our paperwork is done correctly and SOON so we can send them off to Ukraine before we leave in July. I know I must sound like I'm getting a little on the nervous side about our paperwork and all, however, I have to cast my cares daily over unto the Lord regarding all of this....because the victory is ours because the battle is HIS...not mine. Yeah....as you can tell...I have to keep telling myself that and speaking it forth, because yes, that is the only thing right now that concerns me is our paperwork. This whole adoption has been in God's hands since day one and we have truely had Supernatural Favor in all of the process so far, so I just trust that the Lord will complete His good work exceedingly and abundantly above all that we can ask or think and we thank God for His goodness and mercy towards us and our family and friends each and every day of our lives.

Wednesday, May 11, 2005

Our Adoption Timeline

Here is our timeline from beginning to our appointment date:



Decided to adopt - March 2004



Homestudy Meeting with AFTH (www.adoptionsfromtheheart.org)- May 28, 2004



Parenting the Adopted Child Classes - June 21, 22 & 29



Home Visitation Interview - July 21, 2004



Changed Countries - from Kazakhstan to Ukraine - August 4, 2004



Decided to switch to Independent Adoption (www.Ukrainianangels.org) - Aug 9, 2004



Recieved Final Homestudy Reports from AFTH -September 3, 2004



Sent documents to INS for fingerprinting appt. & approval -September 4th, 2004



Fingerprinted at INS in Philly - September 22, 2004



Recieved approval from INS (2 children-YIPPIE) - November 15, 2004



Sent our Dossier documents to Ukraine - Nov. 21, 2004



Dossier was Submitted to the NAC - Feb. 8, 2005



Dossier was approved & registered at the NAC - Feb.21, 2005



Received Approval letter & Registration # from the NAC - March 18, 2005



Sent Appt. Request Letter to Ukraine - March 21, 2005



Appt. Request Letter Submitted to NAC - March 29, 2005



Appt. Letter from NAC written on - 4/6/05



Appt. Letter received via Fed Ex.- 4/25/05



Our Appointment Date at Ukraine National Adoption Center - July 26, 2005

Sunday, May 08, 2005

Happy Mother's Day to all Mom's out there!

We had a wonderful time today spending Mother's day with our Moms and family. We are both truely blessed with two beautiful mothers, Mama Sherry (my mom) and Mama Maria (Robert's mom). We are both very close with our moms and have a wonderful relationship with them. The two women that have influenced our lives the most and molded us into the people we are today. The two people that would do anything for us to help us suceed at anything that we set out to do....the person who picked us up when we fell....the person who kissed our booo boos, wiped our tears away and turned our frowns upside. We thank God for both of our mothers and would like to say........For all the times you stood by us, For all the truth that you helped us see, For all the joy you brought to our lives, For all the wrong that you made right, For every dream you made come true, For all the LOVE we have for you.......We're grateful for each day, Because we LOVE you both so very much. Ok....Ok....I'll stop singing. Yes, we truely love our moms dearly and I believe that if I can be half of a mother as both of our moms have been to us, I know I will be a great mom to our children. Duet. 5:16 - Honour thy father and thy mother, as the LORD thy God hath commanded thee; that thy days may be prolonged, and that it may go well with thee, in the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee.

Friday, May 06, 2005

Our 5 Year Wedding Anniversary!!

Wow! It's hard to believe it's been 5 years since Robert and I have been married. Time flies when you are having fun. We will be going out to dinner tomorrow evening and next weekend we will be going away for the weekend with my mom, my brother David and my sister, Marli to Lancaster, PA (amish & quilt country) to have a combined anniversary weekend and to celebrate my mom's birthday. David & I wanted to do something special for my mom's birthday so we are going to a bed and breakfast in Bird-in-Hand, PA and spend the weekend going in and out of true amish(on their farms) quilt shops. It should be a fun weekend. We'll see how Robert and David deal with all the quilt shops that we will be going to. It should be interesting anyways.

Saturday, April 30, 2005

A TRIPLE BLESSING!

Hooray! We've FINALLY decided on when we will be leaving for Ukraine since we just purchased our plane tickets. Thank God! I'm glad we purchased our tickets so our seats are confirmed on our flights! That's a load off of my mind. Robert and I were going back and forth looking at different options and decided that since we were going on a 10 hour plane ride in coach it would be best to layover somewhere to stretch our legs a bit. Well, it went from stretching our legs A BIT to stretching them for 3 1/2 days in London before we head on to Ukraine. Sounds good to me!!! YIPPIE!! I've never been to Europe before much less London! We might as well since we are going to be there.....you never know when we'll get the chance again. We're going to visit "MY PEOPLE" as Robert calls it (since I'm mostly English). We'll have to visit my "Aunt Elizabeth Windsor....just kidding....she's not my aunt even though my maiden name is awefully close to the spelling of the Royal Families (Winser). After visiting London for a few days we'll head out to Ukraine on Friday, July 22, 2005. We'll arrive in Kiev, Ukraine at 2:45pm in the afternoon (Ukraine is 7 hours ahead of us here in NJ...so it will be 7:45am in EST when we arrive in Ukraine). Our translator will be meeting us at the airport with a driver to take us to our hotel and probably to get something to eat for dinner. Since our appt will not be until the next Tuesday, July 26th (4 days from arrival in Ukraine) we'll hopefully get to tour Kiev (major city and capital of Ukraine) to record pictures and memories for our children and go to church at our pastors' friends church in Kiev. Once we have our appointment on Tuesday with the NAC and select our children we will be anxious to leave Kiev to meet our children in whatever town in Ukraine they are located in. As I'm sure you can understand. That is why we are arriving so early in Ukraine as well as to get adjusted to the time difference before our meeting with the NAC. How exciting...a TRIPLE Blessing...2 kids and touring London with my Babez (Robert's nickname) for a few days. Thank you Jesus!!

Tuesday, April 26, 2005

91 Days and Counting!!

Yes, that's right we are counting the days until we are in Ukraine meeting with the National Adoption Center. OK...OK...we are on the WEEEEE bit EXCITED side so just bear with us. If you see our heads spinning or have a glazed look in our eyes with a smerk on our face ...you'll know why. There is so much to do between now and the time we leave for Ukraine it can be overwhelming. We have plane tickets to purchase, documents to update (any document over 1 year old when we meet with the NAC in July needs to be updated...such as our fingerprints for statewide criminal clearance, physicals, agency license, doctors license), travel items to purchase, over-the-counter meds for us and the children (just in case we need them while in Ukraine), Medical Evacuation Insurance to purchase, International Cell Phones, Child-proofing the house, Finish children's bedrooms, meet and select a Pediatrician, check into our healthcare coverage while in Ukraine, Coordinate with Dr. Yuri in Ukraine to meet and examine the children while in Ukraine, learn some Russian and Ukrainian, purchase thank you gifts for our Ukrainian Adoption team of people helping us in Ukraine, attend a child/infant CPR & First Aid class, Creating a Registry at Babies R Us, Toys R Us and Amazon.com, cook and freeze some meals for when we return and many other little things that I can't think of right this moment. OK...now you understand what I mean when I said if you see our heads spinning. So many important TO DOs before we leave for Ukraine. In the midst of thinking about all we have to do, I find myself daydreaming and wondering what our children are doing now and wondering how old are they and what gender are they and hoping and praying for their health, safety, nourishment, emotional well-being and for God to comfort them and reassure them that their Momma & Papa are on their way to meet them and bring them home and love them forever. It's going to be an emotional and joyful summer...I can see it now. I just hope I don't flood the orphanage with my tears of joy! I guess I'd better put an abundance of TISSUES on my list to purchase for our trip as well and WATERPROOF Mascara!!!! My Goodness...I can't forget that either!!! Hehehe!

Got to get started on the list so, signing off for now.

Blessings!!

Monday, April 25, 2005

We Have Some EXCITING News!!!!

Robert and I would like to share with you all in our excitement for becoming parents of 2 children that we'll be adopting in Ukraine on July 26, 2005. Our Ukrainian Adoption journey will begin on July 26, 2005 since that is when we have an appointment scheduled with the Ukrainian National Adoption Center. We will be in Ukraine for approximately 21-30 days to finalize the legal aspect of the adoption and then we'll be bringing home our children. YIPPIEE!!! PRAISE GOD!! HALLELUJAH!!! As you can tell we are doing back flips right now and are busy getting things in order for travel and child proofing the house. I feel like we're pregnant in a sense since the emotions and hormones are starting to flow. =)

When we are in country, we will be keeping in touch with everyone mostly by email. So if you would like to be on our group emails to keep a status of our adoption and/or know of any other family or friends email addresses that would like to be included on our updates while in-country please email me their email addresses to add to my group list of emails so we can take them with us when we travel.

As for now and when we travel, we are asking for all of you to keep us and our children lifted up in prayer for safety, peace, wisdom, supernatural favor, direction and for 2 healthy children under the both under the age of 4 years old.

The Gift of Life

I didn't give you the gift of life,
But in my heart I know.
The love I feel is deep and real,
As if it had been so.
For us to have each other
Is like a dream come true!
No, I didn't give you the gift of life,
God gave me the gift of you.


Love ya & God Bless You All,

MOMMA & PAPA MILLILO (As the Kids in Ukraine call their parents)

Wednesday, January 19, 2005

The Orphans in Ukraine, THANK YOU!!


Thank you for making our Christmas a dream come true!

A sincere heartfelt thank you goes out to everyone that donated toys and clothes to the orphans in Ukraine during our toy drive for Christmas this year. In a combined effort, there were close to 100 orphans whom received a Christmas gift of love this season just from what we sent off. Some of the items that were donated were Barbie dolls, match box cars, nerf footballs, nerf basketballs with hoops, baby dolls, dump trucks, fire engines, kick balls, puzzles, developmental toys, art supplies, and many more. I sent off 10 large boxes filled with all sorts of toys and items for children of all ages to Life 2 Orphans (http://www.life2orphans.com/) to contribute to their Wishing on an Angel – Christmas for Orphans event. Once they receive all of their donations, they take them with them around the holidays and conduct a Christmas party with food, juice and treats to eat along with a present or two per child in many orphanages in Ukraine. Here is a personal thank you that I pulled off of Life 2 Ophans website from the children from Internat Mykolaivka Orphanage for all the donations that they received: “Dear Friends, An enormous thank you to you all, that all of you do not forget about us. Your presents give us such joy and warm our little hearts. We are now able to understand that there are people on this earth who are openly ready to help children who don’t have any parents. We wish you all luck, health and that the fire in your great souls never burns out. With love, the students” Here are a couple of other thank you notes from a couple of orphanage directors that witness your generosity. “Your sincere help made life of our children brighter, more colorful and joyful. Albeit most important is your cordiality and love that makes their small hearts warm, give a sunbeam of light and hope despite all distances. We wish that the little flame of goodness and charity never fails in your soul. May your good deeds fill up your home with happiness and love. God’s blessing to you at all times.” Another orphanage director wrote, “The children will grow healthier and happier, will learn to fantasize and use logical thinking, while curiosity will become the first step on their way of exploring the world and becoming harmoniously developed personalities by means of these toys.” Thank you all for shining your light upon the children in Ukraine. May God bless you 100 fold of your heartfelt donations. Luke 6:38 - Give, and it will be given to you: good measure, pressed down, shaken together, and running over will be put into your bosom. For with the same measure that you use, it will be measured back to you."